Today was a great day, for a few reasons. I am heavily involved in a huge neighborhood service project which happens once a year on a Saturday in June. The weather was perfect, we had lots of volunteers, and it was a big success. Fun for me. I love this sort of thing. By the time it was over, I was exhausted, and slept for a couple hours. Then got up and took my son out to eat for supper. We then went on a long walk, and talked about some of his concerns and worries.
He's kind of a worrier, and I needed to do this. I did my best to explain why his mother and I are divorcing, and why she moved, etc. Part of this had to include me explaining that I was Gay (at least mostly). I told him this, and he pretty much shrugged it off. He has more pressing concerns which will have to be dealt with. He's old enough to understand a lot. Very intelligent for 10. Great kid, more like me than I can stand sometimes. He was happier when we finished than when we started.
Kids hate things they can't understand, but they are far more open than we give them credit for.
So there you have my day. I'm now out to both my stepkids, my mother, and one of my sons (the one old enough to understand). My sister and brother are next, I think. Though my mother is not wanting me to take that step with my brother. I'm afraid I just have to though. Not sure when or how. I wrote a long letter in church a couple weeks ago, but haven't done anything with the letter.
Hope all of you are doing well. The burden keeps getting smaller. (Not that I'm not good at replacing them).
Good for you again. Seeing you progress has really been a positive for me, so thanks for the updates.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that things have been progressing well for you. Your posts seem much happier than they were ~6 months ago.
ReplyDeleteHave you read "The Other Side of the Closet"? I think it may give you some insight into what to expect from your kids as they get used to you being attracted to men.
Oh, and Happy Father's Day!
ReplyDeleteHappy Father's Day Dude.
ReplyDeleteThanks guys. i am happier than I was six months ago. I feel a lot more at peace, surprisingly. And coming out to the kids has helped so much. I just don't feel like I am living the total lie anymore.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. I love being out and open - especially with my boys (they are 7 and 9). It is great to have conversations with them. They actually tell their friends that their Dad is gay (I'm a school teacher in the school they attend). They will grow up with you being gay, and it will seem like the most normal thing in the world!
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