I have lived in the same neighborhood for quite a while, and know a lot of folks here. One of the families has two sons who I've always wondered about. Of course I know them from church, and the boys were always around. Both are a little effeminate, one more than the other. Both fall under the "cute" tag. One more than the other. Years ago I "wondered." Son number one went on a mission, now at BYU, wants to go to medical school. Still not married.
I saw their Mom today at the mall, and she loves to talk. I asked how her boys were doing, and she gave me the update. No impending marriages, no girlfriends mentioned. Younger son is in last year of high school, more effeminate than the older brother. She told me he was applying to a design school in New York. Bells went off in my head. This is a pretty devout LDS family, but has always been wonderful to me and my family. I fear for those boys and what they might be going through. It is one of those situations where you wish you could read minds, and somehow, prevent the hurt which will come if what I suspect is true.
It got me thinking about that study that found younger brothers more likely to be gay. Of course, that is me. I know one family who has two lesbian daughters.
Ever known anyone who had this experience in their family?
My mom's cousins family had two. One was a twin- the male twin of a male/female set. He died many years ago of aids. The other was a daughter who has been in a committed relationship for 20 years and has a daughter of their own. They were both on the younger end of the family spectrum. BTW: Husband (the gay one) is the oldest in his fam. I know what you mean about wanting to ask. To want to lend support, or to let some of the air out of the over-inflated balloon. Happens to me all the time. Haven't quite figured out the proper way to say it though. . . let me know if you find a good "in".
ReplyDeleteI'm in the middle. And yes, wouldn't it be nice to know somethings for sure without having to guess. Life would be so much easier.
ReplyDeleteMy brother and I... both on younger half of a family with 10 kids. (He is number 7, I am 8)
ReplyDeleteMy sister #4 and me #6
ReplyDeleteJoe!
ReplyDeleteI heard about this study as well (that the youngest of three males to be gay). I thought it was one of the ways the Nazis used to determine if someone was potentially homosexual during WWII (though this was seen briefly on TV so I could be COMPLETELY wrong).
With that said......
I have two older brothers and I'm the only gay one. So maybe there's some truth to it!
-Dean